Cheaters suck and being cheating on is one of the worst feelings in the world. It’s hard to imagine that you’ll ever love again after such betrayal. Recovering from infidelity is hard and not the easiest thing to do, but you will get through it. It will take time and patience, but you can get over being cheated on and love again. Here are a few things to do after you’ve been cheated on so that you can move on:
- Don’t rush into things
You’ll want to definitely take time alone since you’ll probably feel lonely, sad, mad and every other emotion in the book. And you’ll need to work out those feelings on your own before you go rushing into a relationship with another person. Getting into a new relationship too soon can cause you to transfer some of those issues to that new person, which would be unfair to them.
- Figure out the root of the problem
An affair was the outcome, but there were deeper problems in your relationship for the affair to happen in the first place. Maybe you had communication problems, maybe he felt taken for granted, maybe you wanted different things from the relationship, or maybe he was just an asshole. Try to figure out what the problems were so that you don’t have more trouble in future relationships.
- Don’t stew over it for too long
Sure, take your time and cry, be mad and sit at home binging on Netflix while you eat ice cream, but don’t dwell on it too long. Process your feelings and then make it a point to move on and go out. Sobbing about it all the time won’t do you any good, and you won’t be able to heal. Instead, get yourself involved in some hobbies or activities to get yourself back out in the world.
- Seek support
This is a trying time for you, so don’t be afraid to ask for help or seek support from your family and friends. And you might even have to see a professional to deal with it all, so don’t be scared to go out and look for support to get over this hard time in your life.
- Know things will get better
As much as you think the world is over, try to have a positive mindset and realize that things will get better in time. This glimmer of hope will make dealing with it all so much easier.